Life is full of competition. Although everybody wants to win, if one wins, the other will definitely be losing. We should take this as a step in the learning process. We can learn from animals and insects who may fall plenty of times but ultimately succeed.
The competition gives us the motivation to achieve a goal; we work with determination, creativity, and perseverance to overcome challenges; and to understand that hard work and commitment lead to a greater chance of success.
In all situations of life, there are winners and losers: getting a job, bidding on a contract, not getting into the desired college, and so on.
Children need to learn how to cope with defeat and disappointment and to be able to genuinely appreciate the good fortune, talents, and abilities of the “winner” and then look forward to the next opportunity to try again.
Our life is a learning platform, and competition is the Warfield. We have to fight with ourselves to achieve success; our heart starts jumping when we win, but we should not lose our heart in case we lose. We should again make better efforts to achieve our goal.
Think over where we were wrong and where there is room for improvement? We try to find out the reasons for failure and explore new ways for getting success.
We have to mold our children in such a way that they understand the importance of teamwork and give them such an atmosphere where they easily learn and be positive as regards winning. They should be told that “ winning isn’t everything,” and if a team wins, it is the win for the whole team and not any individual.
By doing this, we are stripping away the hunger to win over challenges and to value excellence and hard work. In our efforts to ensure our children have good self-esteem, we create adults who have a sense of entitlement and do not know the meaning of hard work and commitment, nor the joy and sense of the accomplishment of overcoming a challenge or solving a problem and achieving success.
For gaining success, one has to develop “the killing instinct.“ This gives a person the winning attitude and ultimately the victory. That means one has to make efforts by body, soul, and heart. One has to make up the mind that I have to win, and this is my future.
We need to instill a winning attitude: A drive for excellence and victory. Instilling this winning attitude is one of the goals of a good coach. When a child learns that given the right attitude, they can succeed at whatever they set their hearts and mind to, it can have an overwhelmingly positive impact on their self-esteem and on their future.